Marriage Breakup

[clungemobile]

If you live in a married quarter and are going through difficulties with the wife/husband could someone tell me the procedure please? Do you go to chf clk and change your marital category and move in the block and change your status? or is it this 90 day thingy then change you status (if no reconciliation) and then another before you/they are booted out?

as you can tell i don't know but would like to so anyone with the gen please post

many thanks

 

[Humble Scribe]

Go see the Chf Clk who can authorise a 90 reconciliation period whereby you can live in the mess rent free (pay for food) while you try and sort your troubles out without changing PCat Stat. At the 90 day point, you should be called in again and asked how things are going; if you wish to remain in the mess then you are obliged to change P Cat Stat and SFA occupant given 90 days notice to quit while you continue to pay for the SFA. After 2nd 90 days, SFA charges stop for you (or earlier if they move out) and single accom charges start for the mess if thats where you still are.

Obviously you cna move back in at any point or indeed declare that it's a no go and change your PCat earlier which will mean that the notice to quit is also sent earlier and 90 days starts from then.

 

[mememe]

Having taken legal advice on similar the one biggest piece of advice I was given over and over was...never move out the marital home. You may think you are doing the honourable thing but it will make your life a lot more difficult further down the line should you end the marriage, especially if you have kids. Good luck.

 

[mild mannered janitor]

Having taken legal advice on similar the one biggest piece of advice I was given over and over was...never move out the marital home. You may think you are doing the honourable thing but it will make your life a lot more difficult further down the line should you end the marriage, especially if you have kids. Good luck.

i cant agree with this more, in the long run if it goes wrong trust me you will be taken to the cleaner's, the idea of a friendly split is nice but a rare thing when the chips are down 99.9% of women turn very nasty and will not hesitate to use the kids (if any involved) to their advantage as weapons.

If i learned anything it was from day one look after number one.

dont want to sound all doom and gloom and i do hope it works out for you i really do divorce is not a nice thing to have to go through.