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Married quarter & RAF admin on divorce?

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Hi all,
Not a subject I really want to talk about but need some gen please before I start the ball rolling.
Could anybody help me out and tell me what happens as far as the RAF goes when you divorce, particularly accomodation wise? What's the score with timescales etc We're in a married quarter at the moment, if I leave how long do the rules say the house can be kept for, obviously there must be some sort of period allowed for getting things sorted as she'll live there in the meantime. Can you keep a quarter right up until the point that the divorce is finalised (which could obviously take a while), or will I have to kick her out as soon as I've told the admin staff it's going to happen? I'm not completely unreasonable, I wan't to get this sorted as stress free as possible for both of us, but I am concerned as she probably has nowhere else to go at the moment.
Also, how much involvement does the RAF have with interferring with splitting my pension, or will they leave that to whatever we arrange through the solicitor? Basically because of the situation I intend to help out in the short term and make sure she gets no claim on my pension at a later date.
After all this stress the one plus side is there's no kids to take into account, phew!
Any info would be very useful before I go down the wrong route.
Cheers.
 
When it happened to me, hubby left the house and went in the block and I was served an 8 week notice straight away. Took that to the council but ended up renting privately for a while.

I was also made "persona non grata" and not allowed on camp for a drink as the RAF said it was hubbies home not mine.

Not sure if the rules have changed now though :-)
 
This is a great forum for advice - but - the rules change all the time and personal circumstances also have an effect.

So on this occasion I suggest you go and ask your Chief Clerk - they will give you free, impartial and, most importantly, up to date and honest advice

Good Luck

Hu
 
OK, seems reasonable that if I move onto camp there must be some sort of notice for her to move out, 8 weeks seems a bit harsh though. A bit naughty I know, but if I don't move onto camp and I choose to stay somewhere else for a short while (it will be less than a month then I'm out the country anyway) before the legal stuff gets going then I suppose there's no need to inform the RAF until I get back, that would at least give her another few months. At what point do I need to tell our admin staff? I'm sure people fall out, one partner moves out for a bit, then back again and life goes on together in a lot of cases. Do the RAF need to know the moment I start legal proceedings with a solicitor, or before or after that point? Nothing is in progress yet, I've got first meeting with a solicitor this week.
 
Are you thinking if you don't tell the RAF it's because you might get back together? if your not thinking that then eight weeks is plenty of time to get packed and re-housed and paperwork sorted ... well I guess it depends if your not so other half is devastated or not!

Don't forget it might be you paying rent on two places if you don't inform the right people and council tax etc... not to mention who's name the bills are in and what bills could be run up against your name.
 
When one of the lads at work divorced from his missus, he moved back into the block and she was given 90 days notice in the quarter.
 
I'm pretty certain the chance of getting back together won't come into it. I had thought of all of these things, and paying rent on 2 places isn't an option for me at the moment. It wasn't that I was thinking of not informing the RAF or doing some sort of fiddle, just trying to be reasonable and help the situation as far as she's concerned, after all it's my decision on the split and I'd rather keep things civilised if possible. I don't intend breaking the rules, I just want to be 100% sure of them so I can bend them to best suit our situation. If me moving out and staying with somebody else for a few weeks just running up to my time away helps, then we can start the formal stuff when I get back in the summer. Obviously this is all based on things remaining calm between us, you never know how things might change over the coming weeks/months.
 
Poking my nose in as women do ;-) is it worth risking going away until after summer, because what seems amicable now may not be by summer, and your ex other half may have found some one else etc ... would it not be just as easy to see Chief Clark, tell him what's happened and do it the normal way... that way if anything occurs while you are away at least camp knows the score. And you won't find huge bills or any shocks when you come back.

You guys know what us women are like! we lovely and tolerant one minute and as soon as the chocolate has run out we can change in an instant and demand etc!!

It's nice to see you are being nice about it all and no one would say you were on the fiddle... but common sense tells you never to trust a woman!!
 
I wouldn't take the chance of going away and trusting your other half in the FQ, there are probably many ways to hide the split from the RAF, but if it all blows up it won't be worth it.

If you tell the Chf Clk there might be a chance of you getting back together then you're ex may keep the FQ a bit longer and then it's out in the open.

Good Luck fella, hope it goes well.
 
Yeah, I appreciate the comments, and it's something I have been thinking about. No, I don't trust women at all, especially as it's me calling an end to things, although I'm sure she'd say exactly the same about me! Not very good timing is it with less than 4 weeks before I go away, why now of all times lol Typical!
 
I think you have answered your own question by knowing you can't trust women!!

Just remember she may end up having you by the 3 b's ... Balls ... Bank Balance and Beer Money!!

It is indeed best to safe guard the beer money and have a quiet word with Chief Clark tomorrow.
 
Go and see the Chf Clk and advise him that you want to move in the block as things aren't working out at home, don't say that's it, its over or you'll be asked to change Mcat straight away. You'll be given a 93 day reconciliation period whereby there's no change of MCat you just can live in the block without paying accommodation charges. After that period is up, he'll call you in again and if nothings changed, you'll be oblidged to change your MCat and your wife will be given a further 93 days to vacate the SFA by DE. During this period, you will still pay for the SFA but no accommodation charges in the block. After second period of 93 days, SFA charges stop and a 'damage for trespass' rent is charged to Mrs CCC and you commence single accom charges.

Pension is much more complicated and if you can come up with a solution with a solicitor thats suits you both, then so much the better. Godd luck to you both whatever happens.
 
Thanks for the gen about the 93 days thing, that's exactly what I was after.
As for the 3b's, the bank balance is non existent, the beer money has all been drunk, so I just have my balls to look after. Makes my job a little easier, just having the one thing to think about, quite lucky, I am a man after all lol
 
Also, don't forget that as soon as you move in the block, you'll start paying the Daily Food Charge (DFC).

So, as Humble Scribe has stated.

First 93 days, you pay DFC, SFA but no SLA charge.
Second 93 days, change of MCat, but still pay DFC, SFA, but no SLA.
After that, you stop paying SFA but pay DFC and SLA.

This is of course if you're not on a PAYD unit.

Good luck :PDT_Xtremez_14:
 
Thanks for that, at least I know where I stand with that part of things, and paying the DFC is the least of my worries right now
 
You need to let HR know as soon as you take a room in the block. The Chf Clk will give you 93 days to try an sort things out; this is known as a cooling off period. If after that you have decided that it is all over, DE will be notified and you get another 93 days in which the MQ has to be vacated. If it isn't the occupier becomes an illegal occupant and has to pay appropriate rent but you will cease to pay.
 
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