Newbie recruit's worst nightmare!

[185]

i hope your son appreciates all you have done for him,and hes inherited your sense of humour hes going to need it .wonderfull

 

[Blanche]

haha! My mum sent postcards very similar to those when I was in basic a couple of months ago!
What date has your son been given for his pass out parade?

 

[kirkbylincs]

Graduation day

Graduation day

Hopefully, his Graduation day will be 15th December.

 

[kirkbylincs]

24 hours is a long long time in training......

24 hours is a long long time in training......

Okay,

so it is Agony Aunt, (or Uncle), time now.....

Shall we say 'one of his friends' has been put in charge of a room. Thankfully, the room is still there but some of the occupants aren't allegedly getting things done to that finite standard beloved of instructors.

When this happens, 'the friend' gets it in the neck and gets his kit turned over as well which is making him somewhat miserable. 'The friend' now, (allegedly), finds himself running around after everyone else and having to complete his kit work after the others have gone to sleep.

There's always two sides to a story so rather than a pinch of salt, I reached for the tin of Saxo. There's also the fact that this could just be one of those down points that will always be present due to the pressures of the training programme. Some youngsters idea of a lack of sleep can be anything under 11 hours so as I say, bucket of salt time.

My advice was to tell 'the friend' that he should reason / cajole / pressurise the errant scoundrels in the hope that this brings improvements but I'm told 'the friend' doesn't want to be disliked by them??

My other advice was to speak to an instructor on the side and explain issues as by not making someone aware of the issues, 'the friend' could be seen to be simply accepting the situation or even worse, indifferent to the situation. I also suggested that if this didn't work, a word with the WASPS could boost confidence.

I'm sure this issue isn't unique so I'd value any advice, (polite and legal mind you), I could pass on to 'the friend'.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Weebl]

Okay,

so it is Agony Aunt, (or Uncle), time now.....

Shall we say 'one of his friends' has been put in charge of a room. Thankfully, the room is still there but some of the occupants aren't allegedly getting things done to that finite standard beloved of instructors.

When this happens, 'the friend' gets it in the neck and gets his kit turned over as well which is making him somewhat miserable. 'The friend' now, (allegedly), finds himself running around after everyone else and having to complete his kit work after the others have gone to sleep.

There's always two sides to a story so rather than a pinch of salt, I reached for the tin of Saxo. There's also the fact that this could just be one of those down points that will always be present due to the pressures of the training programme. Some youngsters idea of a lack of sleep can be anything under 11 hours so as I say, bucket of salt time.

My advice was to tell 'the friend' that he should reason / cajole / pressurise the errant scoundrels in the hope that this brings improvements but I'm told 'the friend' doesn't want to be disliked by them??

My other advice was to speak to an instructor on the side and explain issues as by not making someone aware of the issues, 'the friend' could be seen to be simply accepting the situation or even worse, indifferent to the situation. I also suggested that if this didn't work, a word with the WASPS could boost confidence.

I'm sure this issue isn't unique so I'd value any advice, (polite and legal mind you), I could pass on to 'the friend'.

Thanks in advance.

Your 'Friend' has probably been put in charge of the room for a purpose, probably to boost his confidence, or to prove he has some leadership skills. Therefore IMO running off to the instructor is not the way forward, neither is running around doing other peoples work while they sleep.

Your 'friend' needs to take charge, instruct his charges clearly on what he expects from them and make sure they do it. I am not saying he cannot help out to ensure the whole room is up to scratch, but just because he is responsible for it, does not mean he has to do it all himself.

The final stage for somebody in his position who is simply being ignored by those he is nominally in charge of is to give them a room job, make absolutely sure they know exactly what they are supposed to do, and if they do not do it anyway, when the instructor asks something has not been done, tell them (but not in a whiny voice FFS) Your 'friend' should make sure his room knows this is going to happen as well, they may whine on about 'telling tales' but he then only has to point out if they are going to be lazy jack bas@rds then he does not have much choice.

Yes, it won't make him friends, but then neither will acting like a doormat.

 

[kirkbylincs]

Thank you.

Good advice which I will forward on.

 

[MattBombHead]

did someone say they are on these forums??[/FONT]

Erm maybe... but not on your lads Intake....DT_Xtremez_06:

 

[kirkbylincs]

Again, it's strange how 24 hours and probably a decent sleep can make a difference. Spoke to the lad last night and both he and his 'friend' are much perkier and sounding far more positive.

Certainly, as a parent who didn't go through anywhere near as intense a training regime, I am perhaps out of touch with the realities of what pressure the recruits are put under, pressures more than likely to test and challenge. ( Mind you, on a positive side, I can remember 'get some in' when it was first shown, was an Air Cadet (bless!) and spent some 24 years in the Met so, to an extent, I know the disciplines required of newbies - Mind you, you'll all probably consider this nothing of the sort and relegate me to the Woos bin - such is life!

Hopefully things will settle down as the course progresses.

I hear that there is a rumour that 'Mr Blobby' could be coming to Halton soon for a TV promo with Noel Edmonds. I never realised Noel knew Bob Ainsworth so I really must be out of touch!

 

[Zefan]

You'll find more mood swings in a block at Halton than you will on a maternity ward DT_Xtremez_31: