Posting needed.

[juntamonkey]

If for family and welfare reasons I need a posting but only been in my current post for a year, does anyone know whom we should speak with to get a priority move?? is it just the desk or are there powers that be.

Thanks for any help.

 

[trotterdave]

Is it not possible for you to speak to your line managers first? They may be able to pass it to the Chf Clk who could be helpful. Keep them in the loop and you could find your ticket out of there. Failing any help from them, there is always the welfare avenue (CDO, Padre etc). I'm sure a call to your desk wont hurt though, depending what trade and rank etc 12 months is enough in a post to warrant a move

 

[Studley dangerfcuk]

It really depends on what you class as family and welfare needs. It could be a tall order to get a posting (especially to an area of choice) if your mrs doesnt like the area. What has your line management said if you have already talked to them.

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[juntamonkey]

Basically, baby on the way im at lyneham whilst she still lives in manchester (our home town) now we want to sell our house and get service quarters at leeming, driving to swindon every week is having its strain and well i need to move really . Thanks for the advice so far guys.

 

[True Blue Jack]

Speak to your line management first and involve the Chf Clk if you get no joy through informal channels.

I have to be honest - the information you have given (and I fully understand if you don't want to say more on here) does not immediately present a strong enough case to warrant preferential treatment.

If selling your house in Manchester and living in SFA at Leeming is your ideal solution, why don't you want to live in SFA at Lyneham?

 

[sausage2]

When you joined the RAF were you married. Did your misses not realise that you might have to move away from home. TBH I think this is a faily feeble reason to try to get posted. If you can't bear living away from home, then pehaps the RAF is not for you. what would happen if you had to go away for 4 whole months.

 

[juntamonkey]

Speak to your line management first and involve the Chf Clk if you get no joy through informal channels.

I have to be honest - the information you have given (and I fully understand if you don't want to say more on here) does not immediately present a strong enough case to warrant preferential treatment.

If selling your house in Manchester and living in SFA at Leeming is your ideal solution, why don't you want to live in SFA at Lyneham?

My missus can only transfer her job up north, there is nothing down this way for her, my only case is the strain its putting on us and my ultimatum really....

 

[juntamonkey]

When you joined the RAF were you married. Did your misses not realise that you might have to move away from home. TBH I think this is a faily feeble reason to try to get posted. If you can't bear living away from home, then pehaps the RAF is not for you. what would happen if you had to go away for 4 whole months.

MMmm nothing, mate Ive done over 700 days away in the last 4 years so your sarcastic comments aren't really needed here. Ive done long enough to know if I want the raf as a career or not and as for my missus realising I have to work away, well of course she did but life and personel circumstances change.

 

[True Blue Jack]

My missus can only transfer her job up north, there is nothing down this way for her, my only case is the strain its putting on us and my ultimatum really....

OK, I understand. The problem is that you are effectively saying you only want to serve in North England. I don't think S2's comments were meant to be sarcastic, simply direct. The bottom line is, if you can't engineer a posting oop north (and I don't think your welfare case is strong enough but try it by all means), you will probably have to make a very tough decision quite soon.

 

[laboratoryqueen]

My missus can only transfer her job up north, there is nothing down this way for her, my only case is the strain its putting on us and my ultimatum really....

Correct me if I'm wrong but the way this sounds is that your wife wants her job location to take priority over your posting location.

 

[sausage2]

MMmm nothing, mate Ive done over 700 days away in the last 4 years so your sarcastic comments aren't really needed here. Ive done long enough to know if I want the raf as a career or not and as for my missus realising I have to work away, well of course she did but life and personel circumstances change.

Not sarcastic mate, just stating facts.

 

[juntamonkey]

Correct me if I'm wrong but the way this sounds is that your wife wants her job location to take priority over your posting location.

Well a bit of that yes certainly. With another baby on the way she and I would rather not have her be alone all week with a new born and her job will allow her to move to a location in the north from Manchester. So yes rather than her giving it all up to come live in Swindon we of course would rather her career carried on aswell as mine. It's not an easy to come by shop job she does it's rather a good career. I hope this shows why this could be causing an issue with us. If it's not a case to move then fair enough, I just wanted any advice thats all.

 

[Bucc Boy]

Correct me if I'm wrong but the way this sounds is that your wife wants her job location to take priority over your posting location.

LQ, I think you have summed it up to a tee. Old sweats like me remember when the RAF was either the job for you or not. It was usually black or white.

When the wives job came ahead of your own in priority or when you fear a posting as you know it will generate a, ‘me or the job’, ultimatum from the wife, then maybe its no longer the job for you (or at least your present situation).

I do sympathise with juntamonkey as I have been in similar myself, no matter how much you love the job the love of a woman………well family, comes first every time.

Unfortunately I don’t think the RAF can be bothered with namby pamby family issues nowadays, they seem to love the phrase, ‘if you don’t like it, you know where the door is’. So many people are using the door now that, maybe, they need to start listening to the modern day concerns of people like juntamonkey (700 days is nothing to be sneezed at and shows a loyal and committed airman) and changing their phrases!!

Difficult one though……..my advice…………PVR.

 

[juntamonkey]

I know and it goes on and on in my head....but with my situation I'd rather stay in my job nice and secure than leave. I know what everyone is saying about who's job comes first but at the end of the day we both had a career when we met so it's not a case of one of us moving to be with the other.
I agree with what you say though for my own selfish reasons I know but why not move someone if it will keep them in the job than just say no and watch them PVR.....???

 

[laboratoryqueen]

I know and it goes on and on in my head....but with my situation I'd rather stay in my job nice and secure than leave. I know what everyone is saying about who's job comes first but at the end of the day we both had a career when we met so it's not a case of one of us moving to be with the other.
I agree with what you say though for my own selfish reasons I know but why not move someone if it will keep them in the job than just say no and watch them PVR.....???

Yes you may have a point that both of you had existing careers when you met, but the RAF is more a way of life than just a job. Bear in mind also that with a new baby on the way, she will at some point be taking maternity leave, which at this point now stands at 9 to 12 months allowance.

What I would be concerned about in a situation such as this, where you will readily consider altering your career path to fit with her career location, is what would happen in the event of you spending more time OOA. If it reached the point where you then had to choose to alter your path again to fit with her needs.

She married into the RAF, not the other way round. Maybe you do need to think long and hard as to whether the RAF is still the path for you.

 

[Bucc Boy]

I know and it goes on and on in my head....but with my situation I'd rather stay in my job nice and secure than leave. I know what everyone is saying about who's job comes first but at the end of the day we both had a career when we met so it's not a case of one of us moving to be with the other.
I agree with what you say though for my own selfish reasons I know but why not move someone if it will keep them in the job than just say no and watch them PVR.....???

Juntamonkey, you sound like the perfect example of the modern, intelligent, independent and free willed individual the RAF has working for them (forget us old knackered sh1ts).

The only problem is that the old fashioned RAF and its out of date QR’s can’t handle you! Simple example (which could a thread in itself) is the wearing of earrings. In this day and age, what modern employer says a girl can wear an earring but a bloke cannot when they are stood next to each other doing the same job……..in the RAF!!

I hope the RAF gets their asre into gear before you fcuk offski, but I doubt it will. Even though you know what common sense would dictate in your position…….1000:1 says it won’t so either hang in there or……... Sh1t happens but luckily the RAF won’t realise they had you by the boll0x until about 4 years after we emerge out of this recession we’re headed for.

 

[Rigga]

I know this sounds bad coming from an 'ex' - but your questions are better put to the people you should be talking to, in Gen Office, rather than on this website!

I would say to inform your immediate bosses of your predicament - but I would take it straight to Gen Office - personally - and make sure of the attention you think it needs. If they say to go another route, then so be it.

You need to 'precisely' describe your family's position to those that can see/ask what can be done. Try writing it all down and the answere may even come out of that excercise! List the difficulties you're both experiencing and the implications as you see them - Don't offer to sell up and move! Let them come up with an alternate first.

IF they say its your choice to stay or leave - it is your choice to stay or leave.

DON'T make a decision there and then.

Start by looking at the realistic job/wage opportunities around your home before making any permanent choices! Also look into the reality/risk of losing a job where you can't be sacked at the drop of a hat/dollar.

If any actions can be taken - not many people on here can actually help you achieve what you (and your wife) need.

PS - You don't say what trade you are - and that in itself may or may not help your case.

 

[The Masked Geek]

I agree with what you say though for my own selfish reasons I know but why not move someone if it will keep them in the job than just say no and watch them PVR.....???

Because moving you to Leeming would require moving somebody out of Leeming and they may not want to move.

 

[Tashy_Man]

I agree with what you say though for my own selfish reasons I know but why not move someone if it will keep them in the job than just say no and watch them PVR.....???

Probably because you are a number to them in charge not a human being. They do not care that you have feelings or a family that you MAY care for more that this JOB in the RAF.

The only way YOU can look after the best interests of your family is make your own decisions........now you know you aint gonna do that in the RAF !!

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[PingDit]

From what I've read on here so far, both LQ and Riga have given excellent advice.
You need in the first instance, to let your FS/WO know about the problem. I feel sure they'll help you all they can.
Some other advice given may seem harsh, but basically true. You will undoubtedly come to a point where, if your wife insists on keeping her job, she will ask you to choose. Make the decision now. It's not only marriage satisfaction but job satisfation. Which do you get on with the best? Can you mix both?

Good luck with a hard decision!

Ping