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[metimmee]

I know and it goes on and on in my head....but with my situation I'd rather stay in my job nice and secure than leave. I know what everyone is saying about who's job comes first but at the end of the day we both had a career when we met so it's not a case of one of us moving to be with the other.
I agree with what you say though for my own selfish reasons I know but why not move someone if it will keep them in the job than just say no and watch them PVR.....???

There's nothing wring with looking after your own interests or trying to make the world revolve around yourself. Better to ask rather than sit back quietly hoping for the best.

Asking for a specific unit is a tall-order...unless you were after Odiham or some other such place.

You may manage a move, but the swingometer is in the red. I think your problem is that you have a combination of issues, which are not directly related to the RAF. You are what the RAF terms as voluntarily seperated. The issue of a new-arrival can be fixed by co-locating at your current unit - job done. Your wife's career is certainly important to you as a couple (and yor mental health) but the limiter of transfering to Leeming due to there only being a branch close to there is as more of an issue for your wife's employer than the RAF.

If your wife works for a company that allows sabaticals then maybe you could consider that. I would imagine you may be able to set something up with the desk / chf clerk if you complete more of your tour and look for a move to Leeming in the medium term.

Before you get too much of a downer on the RAF, I dont think many employers would be so accommodating.

 

[vim_fuego]

We've spent the last 5 years scraping around for child care and having family travel to us for more solid back-up when I go away for a period of time...It's been tiring and caused many an arguement about whats important in our household...In fact it's accurate to say that we live on a week to week basis with reference to me being abled to go to work and Mrs F holding down a part time position nursing whilst knowing our children are being looked after safely...Mrs F gave has capitulated many times with her career to keep our life more simple but there comes a time when she must be allowed to have a life outside of the house...

My OOA's historically, much to Fomz's disgust, are not to your standard destinations...in fact some could only dream of going to such places and yet they just present more problems than pleasure or job satisfaction...In fact compared to what I read on here from many of you I am indeed very lucky to be where I am doing what I do...

So I, like you, have been doing some serious thinking over the past 2-3 weeks and have 95% decided to bang out when my contract is up on this frame...Maybe my decision was made a little easier by having the pension bagged this November but once I'd allowed myself to think of the possibility of doing something else where I had a little more say in my destiny it fely oddly 'nice'...

This for some reason turned into a bit of a blog on myself but what I was trying to get across to you Juntamonkey is that you're deffo not alone in the hard thinking area right now...people all over are making life changing decisions...some are doing the right thing and seeking advice where they can like yourself...others are just jumping and good luck to them...

In the end my family will always always come first and if the RAF gets in the way [too much] then it'll have to go...

 

[MrMasher]

In this day and age where cost has soared and wages havent, there is even more need for families to have both parents working. Keeping a career is very financially welcome as opposed to moving and being unable to carry on in the chosen career or meet the same level of previous salary.
Its a shame that the RAF doesnt recognise this.

Its also a shame that people stay in post for so long. This cuts down on movements and whereas several (lots of)years ago a call to the drafter via the chief clerk would engineer a move, these days the option isnt so readily available.
It doesnt help either that there are only 10 people at each of our 5 RAF camps we have left! Dead mens shoes indeed.
Good luck with it, my suggestion would be the open door to your drafter. Explain it all and you never know, they might be looking for someone to fill a post up that way.

 

[Studley dangerfcuk]

Do what a mate of mine done, p!ss off one of the local hoods, recieve death threats, get police involved and get a posting of choice.

I might add he didnt do it intentionally, but got 2 weeks notice for a posting of choice. House, wife, kids, cat all dissapeared nearly overnight.

I personally would not recomend it but it happened and not too long ago.

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[KingGuin]

Why don't you just ask your Chf Clk - you'll get an honest answer and your options explained. To be afforded PT you must meet a criterion within SISDAH (SIckness, Illness, severve distress adverse health): from what you disclose I doubt you do but then again the Chf Clk will tell you what supporting evidence is required. Good luck.

 

[Teh Wal]

Have you considered the 'Exchange Posting' route? (if such things still exist these days).

 

[juntamonkey]

Have you considered the 'Exchange Posting' route? (if such things still exist these days).

Yeah i have now willing to move to Waddington, leeming or cottesmore so now gives me more hope....My partners mother is also disabled so cant really move further away then 2 hours from manchester.

 

[Martin Blank]

Unless your partner is a registered carer of her mother or she's in a terminal state the RAF don't care.
Unless your providing some sort of indispensible support they won't take that into account when it comes to postings, how many of us over the years have actually been in daily visiting distance of our parents/inlaws?
All you can do is put your best case forward and hope for the best.
Just remember though your prefferential could be some other poor sod's short notice posting away from his family and he might not be too happy about it.