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Pregnant and still in training.

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I'm currently on holding awaiting to start my phase 2 training, and I have recently discovered that I'm pregnant.

What are my options?

Any help is much appreciated guys.
 
1. vw and come back in when life has settled down for you.
2. stay in, downgraded for 12 months post delivery. Probably wont be able to start phase 2 training till upgraded as you will not be able to fullfill training objectives.
 
Keep you legs crossed or lie on your front the next time. :PDT_Xtremez_15:

Up to a certain point you should have little trouble doing your training, but again it depends "how far gone" you currently are and how long the training is. :PDT_Xtremez_40: As well as helpful advice on here (ignoring what I put above) a visit to the Med Centre and chat with the Doc is an absolute must do and should help point you the right way. :PDT_Xtremez_30:
 
My trade training is due to finish on the 21st of May 2010.

I've been serving now for more than 6 months so I thought 'd have to apply to PVR and that the route of VWing was no longer a possiblility. Or is that rumour mill?
 
Thats a long time on holding, whats the trade? Yeah a VW wouldn't be a possibility now iirc.

As others have said, just have a chat with a Doc and see what options are available. If it was me, I wouldn't think about leaving, guaranteed pay and assistance and a job to come back into as soon as your back on your feet...
 
OP you need to inform your current Training Management of your condition asap, because specific risk assessments will need to be put into place to protect you up to the point where you commence maternity leave. They will also be able to advise you of what options are open to you.

I have personally dealt with a number of cases in training and from experience, each one has to be dealt with individually; in one case the individual completed part of her training, had the child, came back after maternity leave and with a bit of refresher completed the course (all the time being paid of course).
 
Lots of usefull advice so far here, but I'm going to say what everyone is thinking....

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Why the fcuk were you not using protection? Its not as if they don't teach it at school and talk about it at Halton.

You silly girl.

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How bloody patronising Mr Cheeky Monkey.

No contraception is 100% effective and I'm sure the OP is not looking for a lecture.

This so called silly girl, could be for all you know, a 28 year old married woman. I may be reading too much into your comment but it sounds like you think she is 16/17 and just fallen out of school. The OP doesn't even say it was an accident. It could have been planned......

You shouldn't be so quick to judge.
 
Sniffer said:
How bloody patronising Mr Cheeky Monkey.

No contraception is 100% effective and I'm sure the OP is not looking for a lecture.

This so called silly girl, could be for all you know, a 28 year old married woman. I may be reading too much into your comment but it sounds like you think she is 16/17 and just fallen out of school. The OP doesn't even say it was an accident. It could have been planned......

You shouldn't be so quick to judge.
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Regardless of all the above, the timing could have been better. If it was planned then the comment 'silly' is actually a bit weak.

While the RAF of today is very accommodating towards pregnancy, and single parents as well as married ones, the gap between phase one and phase 2 would be a pretty stupid time to plan a new addition to a family.
 
Sniffer said:
How bloody patronising Mr Cheeky Monkey.

No contraception is 100% effective and I'm sure the OP is not looking for a lecture.

This so called silly girl, could be for all you know, a 28 year old married woman. I may be reading too much into your comment but it sounds like you think she is 16/17 and just fallen out of school. The OP doesn't even say it was an accident. It could have been planned......

You shouldn't be so quick to judge.
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If it was planned she goes from silly to stupid and selfish.
Emzipoo, further to GHS post yu must inform your line management in writing. This is a legal requirement and protects you, your unborn snapper, your line management and the RAF.
 
Life used to be so much simpler, get pregnant start job hunting, simples!
 
Gotta say gal I agree with the latter half of the comments here. The first few years in the RAF are ace. You're young, lots of new mates, nights out on the p1ss, detachments, first proper camp and your going to miss out on all the fun being stuck in a MQ with a baby to look after!! Not only that when you do go back into phase 2 training you will find it very tiring trying to keep up with the course, fit in study time at a night and also look after a house and baby!!

What a waste!
 
As others have said you MUST flag this up to your chain of command not next week but as soon as you go into work and in writing not via a chat over a quick brew. There are many systems in place within the training world to help and assist you, use them, crucially though none will kick in until the system knows that you are pregnent. The machine is very large and takes time to rev up, also it thrives on information, you don't tell and it won't do anything to help.
 
You need to go see the doc, then the maternity clerk in PSF at your unit and also tell your line manager. There are different maternity leave rules for a Servicewoman with 26 weeks or more but less than a year’s continuous service by the qualifying week and who is still serving into the qualifying week (whether or not you intend to return to service). You can read up on it in JSP 760 too if you like, just download it off the intranet, it also explains what 'the qualifying week' is too. Too long and boring to go into it now.

Its not the end of the world, taking maternity leave in phase 2 training is not going to be much different than taking it when you are fully trained and at your Unit. No Servicewoman will be treated less favourably because she is pregnant, absent on maternity leave or for any other reason connected with her pregnancy.
You dont have to be downgraded for 12 months either, and you can just take 6 months on maternity leave. Not that long really when you think about it and it will always be hard bringing up a new baby, on phase 2 training or not, but it will be very rewarding.

Also, as some have said, its not a waste. You can still have a fun and rewarding career even if you have a child!! Shes not terminally ill!!!!!! There are babysitters, and hopefully, the father will be involved and take on his share of the responsibility.
 
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RAF Bird said:
Gotta say gal I agree with the latter half of the comments here. The first few years in the RAF are ace. You're young, lots of new mates, nights out on the p1ss, detachments, first proper camp and your going to miss out on all the fun being stuck in a MQ with a baby to look after!! Not only that when you do go back into phase 2 training you will find it very tiring trying to keep up with the course, fit in study time at a night and also look after a house and baby!!

What a waste!
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I would hope that her significant other would be helping here as well...... in as far as allowing her to be able to do the study time.
 
RAF Bird pretty much summed it up. Whilst it is possible to juggle the demands of service life and a young family, it can be difficult especially during training. You're going to have your work cut out.

Good luck.


MrCheekyMonkey said:
Lots of usefull advice so far here, but I'm going to say what everyone is thinking....

Off Topic

Why the fcuk were you not using protection? Its not as if they don't teach it at school and talk about it at Halton.

You silly girl.

Off Topic
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Off TopicYou might be thinking that, and feel the need to spout, but that's because you're a troll. Off Topic
 
Rambling Sid said:
I would hope that her significant other would be helping here as well...... in as far as allowing her to be able to do the study time.
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Also, family could help, if they are in a position to. I know a few single Mums and they do their fair share of dets, OOA because they have lovely parents willing to look after the children when needed. Even for 4 month dets.
 
Sammy said:
Also, family could help, if they are in a position to. I know a few single Mums and they do their fair share of dets, OOA because they have lovely parents willing to look after the children when needed. Even for 4 month dets.
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I would hope ALL mums do their fair share of dets... being a Mum isn't an illness. If you cant fully commit to being in the Military and doing all aspects of the job (Guard, OOA, etc etc) then you should leave.. simples.
 
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